FRIENDSHIPS.

We all have friends, some we keep close at heart, others we keep at an arms length. All in all we do have people in our lives whom we consider and call our friends. The question i ask is this, do you trust your friends? Are they the kind of friends whom you can rely on when your world starts tumbling down.? Do they defend your honor when the world wants to prove that you are a disgrace? These are just but some simple questions i ask and only you know the answer to them.

In our lives as we grew up, we were raised around other people. Our mothers will always tell us,”enda ukacheze na mtoto wa nani…” The main purpose was to create in us a social functionality of being able to relate with others and to learn to be able to depend on them in circumstances demanding of such need. Each and every one of us, one time or another has needed a hand to hold, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen or just the company to dilute the loneliness.

Our lives have revolved around us meeting new people and interacting with them,enabling us have someone with whom we can share our ideas, thoughts and understanding of life. Yet there are times we are betrayed by those whom we put our trust in and claim to be our friends. Yet many a times you would hear one of your friends complaining of how they were stabbed in the back by a friend that they trusted and thought was true to them.

It saddens me to know that true friendships have lost meaning and have been replaced by fake friendships. Many of which are based on false hope, materialism and so on. True friendship is meant to be based on trust, love, care and concern, but most importantly to stand on trust. Yet this is the most violated aspect of most friendships and at times it is used against an individual bring him/her to his knees due to the weight of mistrust displayed.

A true friend doesn’t care when you are broke, what you weigh, if your house is a mess, what you drive, about your past, or if your family is filled with crazy people. They are meant to love you for who you are. This is just but a spotlight on true friendship. We each have our roles to play and an obligation to others to do right by them.If you lose someone you hold dearly you would shed a tear for them but if they meant nothing to you, you wouldn’t give them a second thought.

The friendships that we attain in life are strengthened by how much value we add to them. We determine whether to be seen as friends who are worth keeping around or those to be kicked out of ones life. Your actions and words should merge to show the loyalty you have to the friendship you are in.