IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU.

 

I tell you being an adult is a lot of hard work, you have to think, rethink, counter-think every decision that you make, cause you never know when disaster will or might strike next. It is said that a wise man makes his own decisions but an ignorant man follows the opinion of the public.

We have a choice about what happens to us in our life & whether or not we let it to turn us. At times we can allow ourselves to be consumed by hate & darkness or we can decide to regain our humanity somehow & come to terms with things learning about ourselves. 

"The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross & which to burn".

Too often in life, something happens & we blame other people for the lack of being happy, satisfied or fulfilled. This is the point am putting across to you, we all have choices & we make the choice to accept people or situations or yield to the demise of our indecisiveness.

I have not lived a perfect life. I have regrets, but that is from a lifetime of taking chances, making decisions & trying not to be stagnated in particular place in my life. The only thing that I could do with my regrets was to try & understand them.

"Do not plant your dreams in the field of indecision, where nothing ever grows but the weeds of 'what if".

I think most of us are raised with preconceived notions of the choices we are supposed to make. We waste so much time making decisions based on someone else's idea of happiness, what will make you a good citizen, a good wife, daughter, husband or son.

Sometimes in order to follow our moral compass & our hearts, we have to make unpopular decisions or stand up for what we believe in. It can be difficult & even frightening to go against the grain, whether it is a personal disagreement with a friend, a partner or a family member or a professional decisions that affects others.

Our fate is determined by how far we are prepared to push ourselves to stay alive. The decisions we make to survive. We must do whatever it takes to endure & make it through alive.

KEEP IT TOGETHER & FORGE ONWARDS.

I have been asking myself this question over & over, "when will we shed this artificial skin that we expose to those around us?". Put more simply, are we really whom we claim to be. Lets take an illustration or two. Have you ever seen that lady in the office who is always laughing & smiling like as if the world is at her feet, do you want to tell me her life is that good or maybe it is what do I know. What of that guy who is the most timid & quiet of the lot, always polite, never raises his voice & understands what it is to be a gentleman or is he some smooth operating psychopath waiting for his next victim, I guess we will never know. 

"When you smile about the life you live, you end up living a life worth smiling about".

Maybe am just losing my mind & just blubbering about some unimportant aspect of life that need not see the light of day. Or maybe am just seeing life from a different point of view with the way the world is revolving things are getting way out of control. We are wolves in sheep clothing, living a life far from what is our actual reality. You may put yourself out there to be quite the mister money bags, yet your own home languishes in the lack of even the basic of needs. The illusion which we create, showing that we are having such a good life does take its toil on you once you realize that you can't keep up with the pretext.

"Any fool can be happy when times are good. It takes a strong soul with real heart to develop smiles out of situations that make us weep".

Drop that mask or else you will lose your true identity. Am not saying that you air you torn or dirty linen in public, but more so that you live within your own means. Because this habit of spending money, time on people you don't like, to impress people who don't give a hoot about you is going to make you tear your hair from its root. We make our lives what we want it to be, for we have the choice of bettering how we feel both on the outside & on the inside. If how you are feeling on the inside is not in sync with how you feel on the outside then Watson we have a problem.

"If you take another step & another, you will be surprised to know how far you can go from the point you thought was the end".

If your ying is not flowing at the same tune as your yang, chaos is definitely bound to be unleashed. This is not to jab at you & am not stating that your life needs to be all rosy for even roses have thorns. As you have heard a number of times over & over that happiness is indeed an inside job. If you are not in your right state of mind you may suffer from Medusa's touch. Everything you will touch will crumble like a poorly baked piece of pottery. Live your life knowing that you are the determining factor as to how it will turn out.

Let it be known that it is not what happens to you, but it is how you respond to the outcome that matters the most. Count your blessings while the rest of the masses are adding up their troubles.

I AM NOT AN OPTION.

 

 

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery & today is a gift, that is why it is called the present". It is indeed a true statement of the chronicle of life, if only most of us could take its meaning at heart & actualize on its true essence & meaning. In this life you will learn quick enough that you should never allow someone to be your priority while you are their option.

It is said that the easiest part about having a crush is the fall, the hard part is where you are to pull yourself back up when you have been hurt & the other person doesn't even know it. If you ever hear your past speaking to you, feel it tugging at your back & running its greasy fingers up your spine, the best thing to do - the only thing to do is run & never look back like Lot's wife who disobeyed God & turned into a pillar of salt. (I think that is what happened).

"You have got to dance like there is nobody watching. Love like you will never be hurt. Sing like there is nobody watching. And live like it is heaven on earth".

Am not saying that you will never get hurt but you have to ensure that you don't bruise easily. We become so blinded by the relations we have with others that we neglect our well-being & get subjected to harm. Do not ask yourself why someone keeps hurting you but rather ask yourself, "why am I allowing them to hurt me". 

The most powerful & deadliest of artillery we possess as humans is Words. These are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force in a constructive manner like encouraging others or in a destructive phase by using words of despair. Words have the energy, power & ability to help, to heal, to harm, to humiliate & to humble. Choose what you utter with a lot of caution & be the best of you.

IS IT REALLY THAT IMPORTANT?

Old age indeed has its perks. You no longer rave till the wee hours of the morning, this days if you are out with a couple of friends & it is nearing 10:30pm you would be howling your head off wanting to go home. Getting into a matatu playing loud music is a no go zone, all one wants is some peace & quiet. Now to top it all, remember all those times you were nagging your parents you wanted money, well guess what! It is now your turn. 

Ask around, once you are done with your academia you will understand the true meaning of adulthood. Bills will not just get automatically paid off. Oooh no, you have to figure out how you are getting that mulla, otherwise you & the landlord are going to lock heads. Welcome to that sweet older age you wanted. It started with you wanting to be 18, so that you can get an I.D. to avoid the tussles you had with the bouncer who barred you at the club & denied you entry stating you are  underage. 

Then there comes good 21, which comes with sweet niceties like now having the capacity to enter those pure adult joints for some private pleasantries. Finally you get to be 25 & now your parents have you on speed dial. The call is always goes like, "Son I need some cash for such & such". The call gets disconnected & you have to comply. If you neglect to comply, your mum goes all  spartan on you with the maternal blackmail. 

She starts off, "I carried you for 9 months, took care of you to this age & this is how you repay me". Eiish! This life is no cupcake my friend, these days you prefer having things more simplified. Having lesser friends becomes the norm, the thing of having 100s of friends ended with the back stabbing phenomena. If those whom you trust can fit into a single palm the better. 

You no longer make it rain in the club, nowadays you draw a budget of how you shall spend each & every cent. Ensuring that all your bills get paid or else you will sing the song of your people. Every decision made has to be accounted for, not just throwing care to the wind. Thus the number of things that matter in your life become, fewer & fewer with advancing age, now that is the cost to be bore as the years progress.