A good number of men are
broken, torn on the inside & bleeding. Every day they think to themselves,
“why am I here? Is this the way that I shall continue to live in a world that
has no thanks!” Grasping at the straws of life, wondering how he is going to
make it through this murky mud.
It is a tough world outside
there & it is expected that he should keep it all together. He is meant to
show toughness like a lion in the jungle, keep a brave face like a warrior, be
funny like a clown, cool like a cucumber (still not sure where this came from)
& composed like a monk.
You would be surprised at
the times one has thought of flight instead of fight. The moments of sitting at
a corner by himself, trying to figure out, if he is enough. The mental torture
that is in existence, unless he clears his mind of the horde of demons that he
is battling on a daily.
Anyway, enough of the
journey through a man’s mind with the many twists & turns of the thoughts twirling
around like stirring the pot. This is the reality out there, we need to be
there for our men folk (you don’t need to agree with me). You will not know
what is happening around him, yet every day he comes back to the house (it may
not be a home yet) & does what he can to ensure that him and/or the
family/or those he is in a relationship with stays afloat & that he puts
his best foot forward.
"I don’t
know you, you don’t know me but I know for a fact that everyone has had
hardships in the past they had to go through. I am proud of you, be proud of
yourself. Keep going, radiate bliss”.
Why are you stressing? Yes,
don't read this question all shocked by me asking it like as if I have lost my
mind (I see you, put the stone down). I know that you would clap back &
say, "what is there not to stress about, huuh?".
Life has become an uphill
task, economy is going down the drain, the reality of survival is for the
fittest, has become the new norm, loss of life is the in thing with no remorse,
Covid-19 has become the plague that won't go away, traffic has become the
continuous headache that one faces in a daily.
We are living in a world,
where due to our default human nature that we tend to worry about everything,
anything & nothing. It is not that we have nothing else to do, but we get
to a point that we give in to the weight of the boulder on our shoulder pushing
us down.
We become so caught up in
our worry that we wonder are we really going to ever have that moment to just
chill & take it easy or life is going to be the continuous battles that are
been waged left, right & centre. The sad reality is that we do not talk
about what is keeping us down & feel that we need to live with that which
is pushing us against the wall.
Other times you don’t know,
where to turn, who to talk to or how to let out what is boiling on the inside.
It has become this baggage that you can’t get rid of that keeps on pulling you
under. How one would wish to have a safe space to be able to say it all &
not be judged.
One can become so caught up
with worry that you deem yourself a burden to those who are close to you &
think of ending it all, going to the quiet place. We have made it, a difficulty
for people to trust us with their issues, leading to them storing all the pain
on the inside & shoving it deep in the Pandora’s box.
Thus, creating a disastrous
side effect of them to the extent of them, distancing themselves from others,
becoming hostile even to those whom love & care about them, taking their
own lives & so forth. This becomes an impediment for one to face the
anticipated future to be & seize the present moment.
If we are unable to learn
to let go, then we shall be held captive by our anxiousness & been troubled
by what it is & what is to become. Look around you, is there any way that
you can be a light to somebody else or you firm stand is that we should each
deal with our own troubles by ourselves.
In the bid for self-help,
one can take a simple step like taking to enjoy nature by just walking, it does
not have to be in a park, even in your own hood. You will be amazed at the
simplest of creations if you are into nature. One can even take up a sport or
activity that flames the adrenaline rush like running, bike riding, hiking,
swimming et cetera. These do help in getting the mind decongested from all that
is stacked up (am not saying it is a sure thing but at least it is a
step).
You could be a shoulder to
some to lean on in their time of need. You could also be a listening ear, when
one needs to let our what is churning on the inside. Time is one thing we must
all learn plays a part in all that we do, taking each day as it comes &
goes.
"Let me
ask you something, if someone prays for patience, do you think God gives them
patience or does He give them the opportunity to be patient? If some prayed for
the family to be closer, do you think God zaps them with warm & fuzzy
feelings or does He give them opportunities to love each other? When you ask
for strength, God will give you difficulties to make you strong. When you ask
for wisdom, God will give you problems to solve. When you ask for courage, God
will give you dangers to overcome. When you ask for love, God will give you
troubled people to help”.
Let us pray, my Father who
is in heaven, I come before you as your child. I am a sinner, seeking that you
will guide me in your ways. I am lost, seeking your light to show me the path.
Lord, I may not understand everything that is happening but I am putting my
life in your hands. I pray loving Father that your will, will be done in my
life. You are the alpha & the omega, the begging & the end, the Great I
am & the creator of the heavens & the other. I come before you, seeking
that you shall cover me with the precious blood of your son Jesus Christ. I
pray & believe this, Amen!
