"You live only once (or in the millennials coined short form YOLO) & there is no rewind button". Have you ever heard this phrase being dished out like 'mulla' during the feverish campaign times, more specifically the first part of it. Most times, it will be during times of having plenty (especially the 'furahi' day syndrome moments) are notorious for such utterances. Jubilation & at times it could be used when going through a thrilling or blood boiling or heart pumping experience.
We are so caught up with our every day living, hustling & grin, trying to make it rain & getting the bank balance to be just right that we forget the most crucial of things. We get our work running through our veins like a shot of purified cocaine in the blood stream that those who matter to us become of secondary value. It could be your spouse or your significant other or your partner or your child(ren) or your parent(s) or your best friend.
"It is more valuable to spend time with your children/significant other, rather than money on them"
You may all go like, 'ger outta here'. I kid you not, when those whom you once held dear leave your world realm that is when you realize their true value. Just like in the time of Judas Iscariot on betraying Jesus & realizing the silver coins he had so much craved were now meaningless. This life will drain the very essence of living out of you, leaving you empty & hollow like a tum tum drum.
In every day life, we throw away leftovers from a hearty meal just devoured without second thought. Do you know that a significant number of the worlds population in every corner of it, for them getting a single meal is a miracle. If you are in a relationship, if you do not take the time to appreciate your partner, my friend the harsh reality will dawn in you like the resurrection of Christ.
"The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the cars, the vast lands or the money in the bank. These just create an environment conducive for happiness but can't give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your partner's friend & do those little things for each other that build intimacy"
I am no love doctor, but I am continuously learning to appreciate the one who is shackled to my heart. When you look at the five or six figure balance in your bank account & go 'that is not enough, I need more'. You should take a moment to think & ask yourself is it not possible that there are those who could survive on what I have & even getting to see that single cent is like the water mirage of the desert & there you are grumbling under your breath?
I did not say that you should not work hard to better yourself (please do not misquote me), "Weee, mwanaume ni effort". Get in that grind & sweat it out for nothing good/worthy is for free. Even those who have sponsors/sponsoress understand what am talking about. Now kindly get your mind out of the gutter & remember that it is only when the well becomes dry that one appreciates its value recalling when it had water.
If you ever find yourself wanting to grumble about how life is unfair (I am also counting myself), then take a moment & see if you have any blessings in your life. If you think you do not have any & that all that you have are curses/pain, I can lend you some of mine like a pound of flesh asked for by the shylock in the merchant of Venice.
The simple yet forgotten blessings are: the very gift of being alive, having food on the table/on your plate daily, clothes to cover your nakedness, the love of the few/many who are in your life, the opportunity to use your limbs, being healthy, living in a somewhat peaceful country & the list goes on like the melodious tunes of rhumba music. These are just but a few of the examples of things to remember when you hop on to your care free band wagon.
In the wise words of Les Brown, he is quoted as saying that each time that you wake to see another day to remember that you are blessed & highly favoured. It may not feel like it at times but remember, "the happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything but they make the most of everything". I have a question, 'when was the last time you sat at your veranda/balcony/outside the gate & stared at the stars up above at night for just a few minutes to appreciate their significance?'
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