Saturday, 21 June 2025

THE LAST STRAW!



Music is indeed food for the soul, or is it? Some of us get engulfed in the serenity of live music entwined with the sweet melodies of vocals that sooth the silent night, leaving you in a state of serenity. A smile forms on your lips as you take it all in, soaking in the calmness of it all, without a care in a world of the worries, burdens & pain that follows you like a shadow. 

When you get to meet up with a friend whom you have not seen in ages, the memories of the time passed get etched in the back of your mind. There you are wondering, why there was a gap in your relation. Adulting may be part of it, other times it could be that you all were facing life at different stages that bridging the gap that once felt familiar to seem like a chore. 

You don’t have to go through a guilty trip due to the silence that was, what matters is the moment that is now. How you take it from there, is what will charter the way of how the journey ahead will look like. In this life, nothing is at seems, you must remember that we are all on our own path of self-discovery filled at times with more questions than answers. 

We live & let live, for in this time the present is what matters that is why it is a gift. The sun rises from the east and sets in the west, at no time does it rise from the north and sets in the south. We need to appreciate that, hills & valleys may not meet but people will always meet one way or another. 

As you forge forward in your living, remember that true friends don’t show up when the sun is shining, they walk in when the sky turns dark, when everyone else disappears. It is only at your lowest that you see who stays, who checks in, and who never asks for anything in return. 

Despite how life takes you in its windy roller coaster, hold on, the ride is not over, let the wind blow in your face & throw care to the side. Do not lose your joy. It is the spark that makes life worth living. It is the fuel that drives your passions and dreams. In a world that can sometimes be dark and overwhelming, your joy is a beacon of hope. 

It is a reminder that better days are ahead and that every storm will pass. We all have our own chosen paths that is unique to each of us. Just because someone is doing better or portrays to do better than you, do not fret, we all have our own timing when things will align themselves like the stars of the sky. A wise man once told me, “If you don’t schedule a break, your body will take one for you & it probably won’t be at a convenient time”. 

I have a snippet for you, did you know that it takes 21 days to build a habit, 90 days to build a lifestyle. It takes 3 months to change your life essentially, it is not easy, but it is simple. All of us are surrounded by people whom we deem to be close & those whom we keep at an arm’s length. 

It is said everyone ought to have their circle, which would mostly comprise of various people whom you relate to on various levels. However, it is vital to note that Jesus sat with Judas knowing his betrayal, but stayed silent. Sometimes wisdom is letting the fake think they are fooling you. Move in silence, let their actions expose them. 

You are unique in your own standing & those whom you surround yourself with, will determine in one way or another, the likely trajectory that your life may take, shaping it whether directly or indirectly into one-of-a-kind life style. Maybe the journey isn’t about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so that you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. 

At times, we make promises but the circumstances don’t favor us. That doesn’t mean we didn’t honor it. Perhaps things will work out someday. There was some insight I got from my many scrolling in the socials where it was quoted, “If they stand behind you, protect them. If they stand beside you, support them. If they stand against you, may God have mercy on them”. 

Lately, I have noticed everybody looks okay until you eventually have a deep conversation with them. And, then you will realize that, this is a generation of people struggling to survive through smiling faces and pretty pictures. It may all seem that someone has it all together by the very fact of what you can see on the inside but deep down they are in a raging battle of odds. 

A kind word/gesture never lost its flavor on someone, as it has a way of just making one feel whole despite what they are facing. It will be my take that you sit with people who protect your name in your absence. It takes a lot to stand up for someone else even if they don’t value you that much nor show it to you. 

Never forget who was there for you at your lowest when no one else was. Those are the people who have your best interest at heart. In all of this, stop being the “Go to person” for people you can’t go to. I would like to leave you with this, “Art is not what you see but what you make others feel. Create from the depths of your being”. 

Let us now pray, “Our Father who is in heaven, may your will be done in our lives. We are your children learning as we keep on growing. In the good & the bad times, we say thank you. You are Adonai, the creator of the heavens & the earth. There is nothing that is beyond for you are a mighty God. Lord Jesus, we seek you in all that we do & who we are to be as a version that is acceptable to you. El Shaddai, thank you for being our God. I put my trust in you that in all that we do, may your will be done. I pray this, believing & trusting in the loving name of Jesus Christ. Amen".


Saturday, 11 January 2025

THIS IS MY FORT!


Well, here we are yet again having entered graciously into another year, filled with expectations, resolutions for some of us to achieve, dreams to conquer, goals to tick off our bucket list & so on. It has been quite a roller coaster ride with the passing of the year that has being, all of us going through our own battles of loss, gain, pain, fear, cheer, fury, disappointment & many such feelings. 

How we managed to pull through, is like the 8th wonder of the world, but in my opinion, God did hold us together. This notion of being his strongest soldier has nearly driven us mad, wondering when will it all end as at the time, each turn you took it led you down some dark spiraling hole of unimaginable moments, leaving you with a bitter taste in your mouth.

“ A smile is the electricity and life is the battery. Whenever you smile, the battery gets charged and a beautiful day is activated”.

As we embrace the new year, one can look over his/her shoulder & really wonder to self, “how did I manage to pull through with all that was coming at me from all angles?” Indeed, the storm that was has now quietened down & we have now gained back some sort of sanity & realization that the world is not as we thought it to be with the clearing of the grey skies. It has been an abyss with a never-ending twists & turns that have brought out all of your various characters to the fore. 

It is, at these moments that we have come to the understanding of who our actual real friends are & who actually got our backs. The coming to understand that family is not necessarily blood but those who have being with us through the good times, the trying times, those who picked our calls, those who helped us in our times of need, those who offered a shoulder to lean on, those who offered a hand to guide us in the darkness, those who sent a message to just check up on us/even cheer us up, those who just visited to sit with you quietly as you fought the demons in your head & just being there for you. 

It has not been a walk in the merry park but a discovery that our mortality is not guaranteed & that as we take in the moments, we ought to live them to the fullest, appreciating what & who we have. Battles have been fought & wars won & others lost. The good & the bad times have caught up with all of us, one way or another & we have kept wondering when is it all going to end. 

I want you to know that one of the best things that could have ever happened to you is that you have seen today, which is a gift. On a side note, in all that you do remember that those who hurt you the most are the one’s who are closest to you. They will hug you looking for a soft spot on your back to stab you. “Just because they showed up does not mean they got your back. Judas attended every prayer meeting”.

“You know my name not my story, you have heard what I have done, not what I have been through”.

Healing is weird, some days you are okay & you are doing just fine. Other days it still hurts like it is fresh. It is a process with no definitive time frame. You just have to keep going, and know that when it is all said & done, “you are going to be okay”. You are going to make it okay here, I trust you. Despite it being like a roller coaster, some days, you are on the high, feeling good & steady, other days, it is like a dip, the pain is back. But here is the thing, it is a journey with a lot of twists but you have to take steps forward on those rough days. Be kind to yourself. Imagine each step is a victory even the small ones. Healing is a messy masterpiece and time is its paintbrush, “keep going”. When all is said & done, you will look back & see how far you have come.

I will leave with you with some rules of life that I chanced along the journey of life:

1. Make peace with your past it does not affect the present – Let it go

2.What others think if you is none of your business – ignore them

3.Time heals almost everything, give it time.

4.Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

5.It is alright not to know all the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it – stay calm

6.You are in charge of your happiness – it is on you

7.Smile, you don’t own all the problems in the world.

As we forge forward in the times ahead, we shall take this time to talk to Abba Father:

Our everlasting Father up in heaven, we come before you Lord saying thank you for all that you have done for us. It is not by our might that we have seen yet another year, but it is as per your will that we are alive & well. Gracious Lord, you have shown us your ways by granting us the very breath in our lungs. We are humbled to be called your children. You have showered us with your blessings & taken us through life & all that it had thrown at us. We are grateful Lord, that you chose us to see yet another day which is not a guarantee. I pray Father that your Will, will be done in our lives. As we take on this year, may your favour be upon us, for you are the most High God. Lord Jesus, we seek you in all that we do & pray you shall go before us. In Jesus name we pray & believe. Amen!